Making Quantum Leaps In Your Life

Updated: Apr 26, 2019


Fortuitously, I came across an article one night that talked about how to make quantum leaps personally and professionally. At first, I was hesitant to read yet another self-help article, and then some otherworldly compulsion made me read it and I couldn’t stop.



The article was saying things I’d already heard or learned, but saying them in a new way that resonated for me. Whaaaaat? This is not the norm for me. I am a scan-reader, skimming the page for keywords, I don't "read read" self-help stuff much anymore because I've read it all before. This time, I actually read all the words.


The author of this read-worthy article referenced studies done by a Harvard psychologist that demonstrated strong connections between the mind and body where study participants experienced significant physical benefits from a shift in mindset. Did you catch that? The BODY changed because the MIND changed. I know you're probably like, duh, Karen. But, be sincere here...we all know this, but do we "know know" it? Do you believe the mind is that powerful? Like really believe it?? Do you?




Well, I got really curious, not about how my mind could change my body, but how to make quantum leap type changes in my life by changing something in my mind.


The article went on to explain that in order to make huge changes happen in your life, you have to change your environment, which in turn changes your mindset. It's pretty basic: just change your situation and you can change what’s expected of you, what comes toward you, even changing who you need to be in order to accommodate the situation.


However, I knew it was not that simple.


In short, I felt if this were going to work for me, this She-Ra would need the grit, belief, tribe trifecta (GBTT) - I think this came from all the online guru crap I'd been consuming, but it's where I was at the time...smh.


But who has all of that going on? It wasn't me. That's not most people. In fact, it describes very few people. I thought a lot about how to overcome my lack of GBTT and still give the context switching thing a try. My hypothesis was that a slacker skeptic with no tribe could change context and do some life-ass-kicking by simply leaving her work-from-home life and instead do a stint at a co-working joint for a month.


I only wish this was my office! Mine is more like...well, it's best not to say.


Before I got my travel mug ready for this big adventure, I had to identify what I really wanted to achieve and then ask myself that important question: am I in the right context to make this happen?


If you know me, I am extremely goal oriented and driven to achieve. I’ve always mapped where I wanted to go, set goals to get there, checked my progress, and made pivots along the way. It didn't seem like a big deal to ask myself what I wanted to achieve.


BUT...this is where things got kind of weird for me.


Not too long ago, before I tried this whole context-switching bit, I went through a lot of big life adjustments. In the midst of it all, I had not stopped to level set where I was, where I was going, and what I might need to alter in order to make forward progress in life. I guess you could say I kinda gave up planning in favor of getting by.




If you've ever been in that place - auto pilot - then you know what I mean when I say these were some of the hardest questions to answer for myself. To recap, those questions were:

  • Where am I in life?

  • Where am I going?

  • What needs to change for me to make it there?

What made it so hard is that I thought I knew what I wanted - only none of what I thought I wanted in life had panned out.

  1. Marriage? Nope.

  2. Owning a home? Try again sister.

  3. Travel? With two kids to support? Yeah, no.

  4. Entrepreneurship? If you call entrepreneurship contracting from home doing something you're good at but is not your passion so you can still be totally present for your kids, then maybe...but I'd say no.

I spent a lot of time walking, thinking, repeating a mantra, getting in a state of gratitude, focusing, and talking to myself out loud by a lake to figure out what I wanted.


It boiled down to this:


"I want to help other people become entrepreneurs because I think it is one of the greatest gifts I can give to others. I believe it is the path to true freedom. That would make me feel really good about what I do everyday and, if I do it right, it could also provide enough money for me to manage my life, the kid's lives, own a home, and travel with plenty left over to donate to others in need. I think every woman should have the skills to start a business at her disposal. In fact, I strongly feel that anyone who has been underserved, under represented, under loved, under educated, underpaid, and under employed needs these skills so they can change their lives. " - From my journal in 2015

This wasn't something new. After all my meditating, thinking, and talking out loud, there I was writing about the same old dream that I had tried to get off the ground for YEARS.


As a result of knowing this was my dream, my life was always full of goal oriented activity to get me there. Along the way, I met others who believed in what I wanted to do and some of them joined me in trying to make my vision a reality, and some didn't.


I started and stopped a lot of different times for different reasons. I got depressed about it sometimes, I felt trapped, and sometimes angry.


I reflected on all of that effort as I prepped for my context-switching moment from home to the co-working space. In doing so, I realized something important:


The context change I needed was to add the right people to my life in order to make my dream come true. Not just any people - the right people.


(Yeah, I just underlined a word online that isn't a link.)



Could this be right? Could context mean people and not an environment? I thought so and started to let this idea sink in all the way.


It really sucked realizing I had been surrounded by people for most of my life that either I didn't give a chance to or who outright just didn't enable my success. What's even worse, I sometimes chased down the completely wrong people because I was so sure they were someone I needed in my life only to later find they were really not that great.


It's the kind of realization that makes you look around and say: "Fuck."


It was so obvious, so right there, but I didn't see it, or maybe I did.


I remember feeling so many times and saying out loud that I wanted a partner for my agency, Predictive UX, but I never found one. It was intimidating to bring someone in so late in the game and I was unsure I could trust anyone. It is very hard to find people you relate to, trust, who add value in ways you don't, and who honestly want to build something with you that's mutually beneficial. This is true in both life and business.


Finding the right people is like asking someone who has no money to go scrounge up some change. It's just not that simple. You have to really hunt and be prepared to spend some time tossing some stuff aside to find the good stuff. It's an art to cultivate good relationships, but that's what I realized I needed to teach myself how to do and am still doing.


It takes time. It takes patience. It takes discernment.


At first, I spotted some people I really thought were going to be the right ones. I reached out and guess what? They didn't give me the time of day. It shocked me. I felt like I had so much to offer (because I've been in business for so long now and have a pretty impressive client list). But, not so. I was ignored and blown off.


Then something funny happened. Instead of trying to network with the right people, I started hiring them. I hired people who wanted to learn from me, people I could afford to pay, people for whom I was making a positive difference in their life - I was their right person and they were mine. Context changed.


You may wonder why I didn't do this before. I had, in a way, only I was hiring people who were at or near my own level because all of my clients for the agency were enterprise clients at these huge organizations. I could only put the best on those projects, people who could stand on their own without me there.


With this new strategy, I hired people who needed and wanted to learn what I could teach and who, most importantly, were excited about my vision. With the new team in place, I found people expected different things from me. I expected more and different things from myself. There was a new level of accountability and it was a game changer.


Once I figured that out, there was a second step to the quantum leap.


Get rid of the toxic stuff + have a growth mindset.



We measure so many things. A good example are the task lists most of us live by - check, check, check!


Unfortunately, we often only measure success by outcomes - you know, only once things are done. However, I learned it's important to also measure our efforts; things like what we learn and our process for learning - as valuing those things reinforces a growth mindset.


Unproductive effort is never a good thing. It’s critical to reward not just effort but learning and progress, and to emphasize the processes that yield these things, such as seeking help from others, trying new strategies, and capitalizing on setbacks to move forward effectively.  — Carol Dweck

How do you reward yourself for having a growth mindset?


In Girl Scouts, classroom, and gaming environments, the external rewards for a growth mindset are often badges. However, I’m not much into collecting badges these days. I needed something that truly felt like a reward to a woman in her mid-40’s who could readily acquire most anything she wants.


I really wanted something external and tangible that I could see and track for my efforts. I knew I needed to get out of my head and rewarding myself with something I could see and touch felt like a real gift to myself and a nice break for my mind.


I ended up deciding on bubble baths as a reward.



It may sound silly to you, but to me: it was heaven. Instead of serving the needs of others until I was totally exhausted each night, or going in the opposite direction and binge watching Netflix (I'm not a saint!), I gave myself permission to be indulgent. I didn't do just any bath, I bought special soaps, salts, and oils. I dimmed the lights and played the best relaxation music I could find, I lit candles, I poured myself a glass of wine and I SOAKED. It was so blissfully relaxing and I ended up sleeping like a baby afterward.


Your Next Moves


Read How to Make Quantum Leaps Both Personally and Professionally if you want a peek at the article I read.


Next, write down your goals or take a hard look at the list you’ve got and ask yourself if you need to change the context in order to shake things up and put yourself in a different place to get where you want to go.


Then go be your bad self. #lovepeachly #goals #selflove #growthmindset #entrepreneurship

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